Monday I feld led to embrace and celebrate Emma regardles of the date on the calendar. Big.
Last night, the world came together to create a collective wave of light for all our little ones who flew too soon.
I hope this wave of light EDUCATED many in the world. Many who have not been touched by this kind of loss, but still harbor misconceptions about preganancy loss, stillbirth, and infant death. (Yes - I know the article is old - but our message isn't!)
Anyway - yesterday afternoon I sat down my little girls and we talked:
ME: Today is a special day.
Bear: Do we get a special treat?
The Comedian: Is it a birthday? I like cake - but not the black cake, only the yellow cake. Yes, cake is good, but cake not good for you. Cake a special treat - we get a special treat?
(Ahhh- didn't I just answer that?)
ME: No, it isn't a birthday. It is more like a "Remembering Day".
Bear: But you ask me to remember things everyday: my lunch box, my sneaker shoes, my teacher's folder...(she could have listed forever)
ME (holding a candle - a visual referance is always good): Ladies, tonight at 7:00 all the moms and dads, grandparents, family and friends of babies who went to heaven are going to light a candle -to REMEMBER them.
Bear (really thinking now): Emma went to heaven.
Bear: Lots of other babies went to heaven?
Me (sadly) - Yes
Bear: Babies in Poland?
(NOTE: She stays after school for a once a week library program where they study other countries. Yesterday was Poland.)
ME: Yes sweetie. Babies all over the world: Poland, Canada, China and here in our country.
Bear (in an accepting and all business voice) - "Oh" - and she walks off.
The Comedian: Where's the cake? (Yeah - I know she's a laugh riot)
I walk into the kitchen, start dinner, and ten minutes later - just when the other room is getting a little tooooo quiet, I hear "Mom - come see what I did". (Bear, of course)
It looked even more stunning after lighting them.
Here's to every one of you and your angels.