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Wednesday, January 21, 2009


I seem to have difficulty keeping track of the days this month. I always feel a thrill when I realize ILCW is coming up and look forward to the 21st of the month in a way that one typically anticipates the season opener of their favorite sports team!

I totally forgot this month (hangs head in shame) until I saw a comment appear with those four tittilating letters at the end.

So, as an ILCW opener, I'm listing the top 5 activites demanding great chunks of my time (read - don't be offended if I don't get to your blog until the buzzer nearly goes off).


5. Cooking and Laundry (they deserve mentions even if they are on the top-bottom of my list, right?)

4. Reading - current book: The Knitting Circle by Ann Hood. (I am a firm believer that reading and writing go together and to be great at one you must be committed to the other)

3. Writing - both my book and my column for Exhale magazine (don't know it? You must check it out - IT ROCKS!)

2. Blogging- Ok, this might seem like a selfish one, but I do have four* blogs you know! And - I am nit-picky enough to want them all to be authenticly writen for their own designated purpose.
This takes a lot of time! (Oh- and the totally-kickin-makeover Calli and I have up our sleeve is eating up a few minutes too!)

And, the NUMBER 1 activity demading EXCESSIVE chunks of my time is founding our local chapter of Share- Pregnancy and Infant loss support for the southern part of our state. Sure, it sounds like a no-brainer, a snap of the fingers really - but my reality check was solidified when I opened a 28 page (yes that says 28) application for non-profit status.

I am eternally grateful for all the opportunities coming my way this year and spend each minute of my time as such. But, to re-iterate the main point - I may not get to your blog until the buzzer nearly goes off - but I WILL get there - because not on the list - but very important is to ROCK THE IRON COMMENTATOR this month!

*Blogs not already liked to in this post are: The Bear and The Comedian (parenting after loss) and Wall of Angels, a memorial site for all our lost children. Please feel free to add yours by emailing me.


Kristin said...

Oh come on Cara...surely a superwoman like you can easily keep up with everything?

Have you read Friday Night Knitting Club? Its an outstanding book.

Michelle said...

Ok Ok you are excused...

GESH no wonder you forgot you are one busy girl!

Martha said...

You sound so busy, I am a Slacker compared to you.

Valerie said...

Wow you are one busy woman!


Eskimo_Kisses_4_U said...

Geeze woman! I don't knw how you get it all done. I'm thinking you might be superwoman.

notsofertilemyrtle said...

Rock that Iron Commentator status! This is my first ICLW -- but I think I'm going for gold, too!

Annie said...

I haven't heard of The Knitting Circle, I'll have to check it out. I really liked the Friday Night Knitting Club, though I didn't think its sequel (Knit Two) was quite as good.

The Steadfast Warrior said...

And an aspiring Iron Commentor to boot, no wonder you're so crazy busy. But I have to say I love how much energy and passion you put into everything you do. It shows in every word you write.

Oh, and this is my first ICLW (I completely forgot too!). I'm ambitious enought to try for Iron Commentor but also not going to get myself riled up if I don't make it. ;)

Soralis said...

Good luck with all your projects!


Anita said...

Keep up all of the good work that you are doing! :)

GINA and KEV said...

You are a busy woman. It's all for good, and for that, you are a superwoman like Kristin said!

Andrea said...

Wow! I'm so impressed with everything you do! You go girl!


Bluebird said...

ILCW or not!, I can't thank you enough for the sweet comments you've left on my blog. Your words today just really touched me and brought a smile to my face right when I needed it :)


Kathy said...

Thank you for your most recent ICLW comment and for all of your support on my blog over the past year or so.

I am impressed with everything you are working on in your life. What is your book about? I will have to check out Exhale... I heard about it in the beginning, but need to follow up.

I love your thing about reading being as important as writing. Anyway, good luck with Iron Commentator! I am happy if I get my minimum required comments in per day during ICLW... That's why I haven't done it since July! Have a great weekend!

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