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Sunday, January 4, 2009

Show And Tell - Holy Cannoli!

That's what I fell out of my mouth as I opened the Rutland Herald this morning to the "magazine section".

The staff writer had called me to shore up a couple quotes the other day, so I knew it was going to be in the Sunday edition, but I wasn't ready for THIS!

I have to admit, after writing my own article for the smaller local papers about Share Southern Vermont, I was concerned that someone else was writing about me and our group. With the wisdom that only grief gives us I banished the "what-ifs" and dove into the article.

It is wonderfully written. I am like a new mother today who just delivered a screaming healthy baby -- Today, I truly believe that our outreach is real. And in 10 days the sad proof will be sitting with me in a conference room sharing our stories.

A few thank you's:
  • Thank you Sara for bringing my attention to Share and reminding me that I don't always have to re-invent the wheel.

  • Thank you Dora for supporting me in this endeavor in so many ways, most recently with the hat-raffle.

  • Thank you Kristin - you know why.

  • Thank you Mel for micro-managing the blogosphere so well that we are all listed in one place. (and for enduring all my book related questions)

  • Thank you to ALL who have donated, both here in my real-life world and from blogland. You mean so very much to me.**

  • Thank you Carol for taking the better part of an evening to answer my endless questions about start up! And thank you for the amazing work you do in Northhampton. (I'm not done with my questions...just saving them up for my visit!)

  • And, there is no way to thank Martha enough. She connected to this mission from 3000 miles away. She became my "West Coast Publicist". She is the one who emailed the Rutland Herald. Thank you Martha! Without you this article would never have happened.

PS - I ALREADY got a call from a sketch artist / wood burning artist who is willing to volunteer his services to personalize the boxes for each family!

** A brief explanation. Although I tried my best to convey to Josh (the writer) the mutually exclusive relationship between my face-to-face outreach and the emotional family we have in the computer, I don't think he really got it. How could he, really? It is the only part of the article that I cringed at.

** Oh - and he missed a word in the book title: After Emma: One Mother's Journey of Self-Discovery Through Grieving The Loss Of Her Baby.


Michelle said...

WOW! THAT IS SO AWESOME CARA!!!! That is so EXCITING!!! Ithought the article was GREAT!!! I am so happy for you! Your are doing such a WONDERFUL thing!

Queenie. . . said...

What a great help to getting your organization off the ground. What an important resource you will be for so many women. Good for you, and good luck to you!

CLC said...

What an excellent article! Good for you. Emman would be proud!

Kristin said...

That was an amazing article. Congrats. And, truly, there is nothing to thank me for.

Amy said...

That is just too cool! I had tears streaming down my face reading that! Wow!! Just wow!

Martha said...

Oh, Cara, You made my day, my week, month, I think my Year! This is so wonderful, I am so proud of you and so is your dear Emma. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
My heart and spirit, thoughts, prayers, and hopefully my strength will be there with you all in 10 days.

Dora said...


I'm thrilled for you!

Cassandra said...

Great! I'm sure there are quite a few newspaper readers who have endured losses who otherwise wouldn't have heard of your group. And many more who have not experienced loss but may become a little more aware after reading the article.

For all of its faults, sometimes the media really is a valuable resource. :)

The Steadfast Warrior said...

Wow! This is wonderful! Congrats.

Lisa DG said...

Great article- what an amazing impact you are making. Thanks, Cara.

Another Dreamer said...

So. Awesome. I hope it helps to open things up in your community and get the ball rolling!

Lani said...

amazing cara! beautiful article - these families in your area are so very lucky to have you advocating for them. we were so lucky that we were given a beautiful box and keepsake of silas when we left the hospital (where we didn't even deliver him!) I can't even imagine if we had nothing. we certainly didn't think of it at the time.
congrats- you should feel great. what a wonderful show and tell.

WiseGuy said...

Awesome that! You are absolutely wonderful!

Recognition of good work always creatively fuels the efforts of everyone involved. Congrats once again!

Stacie said...

That was awesome! How exciting, and I am so glad you are pleased with the article, too!

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