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Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Life Linguistics

UPDATED: THIS IS MY 100TH POST! I DIDN'T EVEN NOTICE UNTIL AFTER IT WAS POSTED. THEN, I REALIZED IT WAS A VERY APPROPRIATE FIT: A POST ABOUT WHERE THE BLOG AND I HAVE COME OVER THE LAST 4 MONTHS AND WHERE WE ARE GOING FROM HERE!

Thank you to all of you for your your heartfelt comments on the last post in response to the RH article. My two worlds ARE colliding and my real life one is exploding.

"Man! Your wife is famous!" the cashier at the local building supply store said to Jeremiah as he hoisted a bucket of mud to the counter.** (famous is a very relative term as I live in a TINY little town)

He shrugged. "You saw the paper, huh?"

Everybody has and that was the point right? The ultimate goal here was TO GET THE WORD OUT and start helping people. But, I have to admit -- the phone ringing off the hook, my inbox being flooded with responses and my Share Southern Vermont to-do list growing by the hour IS a tad overwhelming.

So, I feel led to write this post. I do not believe that it is a linguistic conincidence that responsibility, accountability, and priority rhyme. They are interconnected in the most intimate sense.

RESPONSIBILITIES: I have many, and yes --they are all a result of my own doing. Regardless I take them very seriously, and so I map them out for you here.
  • My family (they do like to wear clean clothes - occasionally)
  • Growing Share Southern Vermont (SSV)
  • Writing a thought provoking column for Exhale Magazine
  • Completing my book proposal and Selling the book!
  • Distributing Memory Boxes to families

ACCOUNTABILITY: I feel accountible not only to myself, but to you. You, both my bloggy friends and IRL supporters are the reason I have made it this far in the journey. I know how important it is to stay "well" within myself and so I break down this action into two steps.

TO SELF:

  • Make time for meditation and exercise
  • Finish each day pleased with whatever I have managed to accomplish

TO YOU:

  • Stay current with my google reader. I have enjoyed following each one of your stories and watching as you grow within your grief. I don't want to lose that even as my life demands more of me here. I will do my absolute best to stay current, but if you don't see my mug pop up for a few days...don't worry -- I'll Be Back!!!
  • Segragate my topics. Once again this blog is become home to so much more than my continued grief journey of Emma Grace. Soon you will see a post about a blog dedicated JUST to SSV! Once that is complete, you will have the choice to click to my grief blog, my parenting-after-loss blog, my angel wall, OR my Share Southern Vermont blog!

PRIORITIES: It feels like time to prioritize. I won't be able to run an effective non-profit if I don't. I won't be able to attend to every part of my life, every day. That is a fact I have to accept. (read: NOT easy for me to accept and even HARDER to do)

Again, THANK YOU to all of you for your never-ending support. WE will make a difference. I just have to take it slow...one effective step at a time.

** If you read the article then you know my families real names. So, the cat is out of the bag, as they say. Even so, I'll still be using Bear and Comedian cause...well - their just too cute to let go!

6 comments:

c. said...

You're just so positive, Cara. It's inspiring to see. Makes me wonder where I could be in a few years time. XO.

Kristin said...

I love that this is such a success so far! I am so impressed. COngrats my friend.

Michelle said...

Quite a to do list but I know you will do wonderfully. You are truly inspiring!

Martha said...

I am with you every step of the way, holding your hand and Emma's spirit in my heart.
Great list, so much clarity, and I will be here with you.

Cassandra said...

I'm glad your phone is ringing off the hook! Not glad that so many people in your area have experienced losses, of course, but glad that those who have now have a way to connect to each other. Your region is so lucky to have you.

Happy 100th!!!

kcmarie122 said...

Happy 100th! It's a great achievement isn't it!

Thanks so much for your kind words on my blog yesterday! They meant so much!

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