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Monday, August 31, 2009

A Day By Many Other Names

Today is September 1st.

A day that inherently carries no meaning and yet it means a great deal to me. If you gathered 100 people and asked them to say the first thing that sprung to mind, then uttered "September 1st" they might say things like:

The day I have a haircut.
The day my rent is due.
The day I will get my new cell phone.

It just so happens that I have a few of these underwhelming associations with the day as well.

Today is:

The day Bear starts first grade.
The day Comedian goes to her friends house - all day!
The day I start my new job.
The day before my mother's and my mother-in-law's birthday.

Ok, maybe not so mundane. Even so, this day holds my heart with gently hands for it is my blogoversary. It marks the moment when a train starting gaining momentum, only to find itself barelling down the track in the New Year, creating projects and goals bigger than I ever dreamed to imagine.

A Year In Review could be done, in fact, it probably should. But not today. Today it enough for me to breath a big, contented sigh of friendship with all of you around the globe.

Suffice it to say, if you have ridden these last 365 days with me you could probably tick off my big ideas on your right hand.

Parenting After Loss Blogging

Founding Share Southern Vermont - Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support

Building An Angel Wall

Writing For Exhale Magazine

But being here, being welcomed by this emotionally bonded community meant more than all the achievements put together. The first people to ever comment and say, "Hi. So sorry to meet you but so glad I have" laid the groundwork for all that was to come by giving me the courage to do it.

On September 1st, 2008 I began a countown to Emma's birthday. I went back and read them today. Tears fell. Memory swam. If you would like to take a trip down memory lane with me, your ticket is punched. Just click on over and scroll to the bottom. Hope to see you in the passenger car.

Happy Blogoversary....Happy Blogoversary.....Happy Blog-o-ver-saaaaa-rrrrr-yyyyy...Happy Day To You and Me!

German Chocolate Cake. That's my favorite. Have a slice, then raise your tall glass of milk to the power of the ALI community.

And many more....cha cha cha


Hope's Mama said...

September 2008 - a month I remember well for all the wrong reasons. I know September is a big month for you, so I'm here with you for this month, and always.
Glad to have found you all those months ago.

Michelle said...


My DH would be happy to hear that you are having German Chocolate cake. It is his favorite.

Kristin said...

Happy Happy Blogoversary. It still stuns me when I stop and realize you've been blogging for only a year. I feel like I've been a part of your journey for so much longer. Maybe that is because you share yourself with us so beautifully. Thank you for letting us take this journey with you.

Kristin said...

I went back and was reading that first month. Wow, I had absolutely no clue I found you during your first month blogging. It felt like i was visiting a well established place.

Lollipop Goldstein said...

Look at everything you accomplished this year. What an amazing feat. Happy blogoversary, and many many many more.

Cassandra said...

Happy Blogoversary!

I would love to be sharing that cake with you.

Salma said...

I'm glad to have found you, and thanks for your kind words in those first moments. I have given you an award, please stop by my site to grab it.

Delenn said...

Happy Blogversary. I hadn't realized what a big month it is for you. I wish you strength, happiness and health.

Brenna said...

You've had such a productive, positive year Cara! It's amazing to me that you've only been blogging for a year--it seems as though I've known you forever. Keep up the inspirational work, my friend.

Lavender Luz said...

The blogosphere is better with you in it. Happy blogoversary, Cara!

Bluebird said...

This made me smile :) Happy day, dear friend. Hope it goes well.

Once A Mother said...

Happy Blogoversary... Look at all the good you have done in this past year. Congrats~

Teena in Toronto said...

Happy blogoversary!

Julie said...

Ah, congratulations. I'm glad you're here.

Stacie said...

Happy Blogoversary, Cara!!!!

SueFitz said...

Congrats on your blogoversary!

Looks like a great blog

Another Dreamer said...

Happy Blogoversary!

Billy said...

Happy Blogoversary !!

Coffeegrl said...

Happy Anniversary! I'm so pleased that you are here with all of us. The circumstances that draw us together aren't what we would wish, but being here together makes it all that much more bearable.

And German chocolate? Yum!

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