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Wednesday, March 4, 2009

I'm Leaving On A Jet Plane...

I really am this time! Heading out tomorrow for some plane hopping with an eventual arrival in ...St. Louis, Missouri! I will be gone five days and (I can hardly believe it myself) I WILL ONLY HAVE TO WEAR ONE HAT FOR ALL FIVE DAYS!

The pale purple hat I'm packing is Share Southern Vermont Representative.
I swung into the resturant last night to pick up my tips check and my boss said, "Have a great trip! It is business or pleasure?"

The question threw me. After a beat I said, "both". It is I think.

I mean, I will learn many useful and important tools about running a Share group, leading the corporation and meeting active griever's needs. (business)

But, I will also meet a host of new people in the grief world. Some, will have lost children of their own and others will be there to gain a sensativity for grief in the workplace (most nurses or doctors). In both "nice to meet you" conversations Emma will come up. And, it will be expected that she does. And, the best part of all, the mention of her name will be accepted and understood. (pleasure)

And yes, it truly will be a pleasure even if I shed some tears, for speaking of her, telling her story, sharing her life has become enjoyable. The knife-like edge has worn away, so when I speak her name it sounds likes music. A smile accompanies the syllables. I feel her with me. Our logo says it all - we hold our hearts in our hands.

I have no expectations for this trip. I imagine there will be wireless, and of course - I'll check in, but I also know that I have to let this journey evolve and what is it meant to be. I will meditate everyday - of that I am sure, for through meditation I will be better able to hear my inner voice calling me, leading me.

Back on - must go do laundry!


Kathy said...

Yay! I am excited for and proud of you! :) How cool to be going to a place where it is both normal and expected that you talk about the child you have lost. Safe travels.

Kristin said...

Have a wonderful trip my friend! I am so very proud of everything you are doing.

Amy said...

Have a wonderful and safe trip! Enjoy all that you can! Hoping to hear from you while you are in my weary state! Take good care and love every minute!

Monica said...

That is awesome, Cara - yay you. What an excellent thing to be doing for the world, for yourself, your children, everyone!

Martha@A Sense of Humor is Essential said...

Have a safe trip and lots of love coming your way.

Brenna said...

Cara, I hope it's a tremendously affirming and enlightening trip. Count me among those who are so proud of what you do!

CLC said...

Good luck! Can't wait to hear more about it!

k@lakly said...

Have a great trip!

Bluebird said...

I'm so excited for and proud of you! Can't wait to hear all about it.

Dalene said...

Safe travels to you! Let us know how it goes. I imagine that it will be comforting to be surrounded by fellow grievers.

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