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Monday, July 6, 2009

Perfect Moment Monday -- Unexpected Beauty

I've always marveled at Carly's work at To Write Their Names In The Sand, but the idea of submitting Emma's name felt very 'not yet' to me. Each time I thought about it another thought took over: There are others with much more recent losses who need this much more than I do right now. And so, I waited -- again.

My good friend Sally pointed out just how silly this reasoning was. I concurred, admitting that following this thread I'd never submit her name as, sadly, babies die everyday - hence - putting yet more devesated parents in the mental line before me.

No matter, I'd waited 8 years for Emma's sketch. It would come to me when I was ready for it. All good things do.

Friday morning I woke to this.

with a short note, "Cara,I have been meaning to do this for months now - I hope you like the photo attached. Thank you for all your beautiful work you do for the bereaved.Many wishes,Carly x"

She'd been meaning to for months. Funny, so had I. It is perfect, more stunning than I could have hoped for.

It definately came exactly when it was supposed to creating a perfectly perfect moment.


Hope's Mama said...

Christian painted the perfect sunset for your Emma Grace. This is simply breathtaking.
I'm glad you contacted Carly, and I am so touched to see this. You and Carly are both amazing.

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Kathy said...

Just awesome Cara! I got chills when I read your post, the message from Carly and most of all when I saw Emma's sunset. As others have commented, your baby girl's name really is breathtaking in the sand.

Kristin said...

Absolutely amazing!

Brenna said...

Stunning photo. Carly is so special that way, as is your sweet Emma!

CLC said...

Gorgeous. Absolutely gorgeous.

Dora said...

Just gorgeous!! Incredibly moving.

Got your email. Will write soon. Stop on by for my latest update. :-)

k@lakly said...

Wow, it's beautiful. The colors in the sky just bursting with light.

Cassandra said...

All of Carly's photos are beautiful, but that one is particularly stunning.

Michelle said...

Wow that is GORGEOUS! I have the chills from seeing and reading this.

Monica LeMoine said...

How gorgeous. I love it!

Sheri said...

What a beautiful's breathtaking.

I wandered over from WeeblesWobblog's Perfect Moment Monday:

Thank you for sharing!

Lavender Luz said...

I've got chills. This is such a moment of beauty and connectedness.

Kudos to both you and Carly for the work you do.

Another Dreamer said...

Wow. Cara, that is so beautiful.

She said...

She does do amazing work. You do deserve it just as much as anyone else, regardless of how long ago the loss was. What a gorgeous sunset, and a wonderful tribute to Emma. I cherish my first two and hope to get one made for my third as well.

Kaytii Angel said...

How beautiful. I, too, have an Angel in Heaven and am very proud. I can't wait to visit the beach and write Jacob's name in the sand.

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