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Sunday, December 7, 2008

Show and Tell - Decorationphobia?

Is that a condition? Probably not researched and proven, but I have it. Let me tell you a brief story...

Once upon a time a young couple dreamed of buying a house. On Christmas Eve 2001, as they dressed for a party, the phone rang. "What? Really? Wow - Thanks" the wife exclaimed as she put the phone back on the cradle. Turning to her husband she said, "We got the house. They accepted our offer, and on Chiristmas Eve. How perfect."

Sweet, huh? Said house is a old farmhouse built in 1868 coming mostly renovated but still complete with some old charm - aka - drafts, a plaster and lathe kitchen without insulation and knob and tube wiring in that entire zone.

Fastforward seven years and I can tell you that all structural and construction related updates have been made! That great contractor hubby of mine made sure of it. He pulled in the bowing barn with cables and erected a new 19 foot beam througout to hold it. He renovated a dusty old hay loft into a totally liveable apartment that I, sometimes, wish I could escape to. He has built outer buildings, landscaped, constructed bridges, and every summer he has the most fertile garden in town.


The inside of the house is another story all together. We lived six blissful years amist white walls, with the exeception of a painted room as each child came along. (mostly yellow..I love yellow) I never decorated. I didn't see the need...ok - that's a lie... I didn't know how!

It is NOT my strength. I don't see finish products in my head. I panic, then leave it half done, and that, even I can see - looks worse.

So, please believe me when I tell you that THIS (with an emergency call to my mother - of course - who made a housecall) is HUGE for me. THANKS MOM!

I love it. I want to keep going. I don't know how. (did you know there are TEN ways to swag this sash? Seriously!) Are their monthly meetings for this sort of thing??
Now, finish laughing at the girl who can do anything but decorate and see what everyone else is Show and Telling!


Kristin said...

It is gorgeous Cara!

Michelle said...

I LOVE it! You did a GREAT job!

Lollipop Goldstein said...

It is very pretty. We are an undecorated house too. We have a few pieces of art up, but mostly, it's empty walls and no curtains. Sigh. Want to come here once you figure out your space?

Another Dreamer said...

How pretty. You did an awesome job :)

Andrew's Mama said...

Gorgeous! You are so funny. I too have a flawed gene when it comes to follow through with decorating. I think it's awesome you enlisted help. It's so much more fun with others. Keep sharing your pics!

JuliaS said...

Oh. my. gosh. I totally want to see the rest of your house - I am a sucker for all things old and with lots of history. Knob & tube!! Lathe and plaster - oh my, a girl gets giddy just thinking about it all!

I bet the renovations must be amazing, decorating aside.

I had no idea there were that many ways to swag a swag. I thought that you just stuck it on a pole and were done with it!

Very nice. :0)

Sam said...

am late for Show and Tell this week!! Decorating is difficult!!! I get my house the way I want it and then leaaaaave it for ages!!

momofonefornow said...

OMG! I am a complete dunce when it comes to decorating. Have you ever looked at the blog Grace Violet? if you give her a towel, a pack of gum and some pipe cleaners and she can whip out the perfect decoration in like 5 minutes. So jealous!

Martha said...

Just Beautiful! I love it and the view!

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