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Sunday, April 19, 2009

The Deception of Appearances

WELCOME ILCW'ERS - BE SURE TO CLICK THE LINK IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT A GREAT WAY TO HONOR / BOOST THE EGO OF THE MEN IN YOUR LIFE WHO ARE GRIEVING THE LOSS OF THEIR CHILD...

Ok, I'm feeling a little guilty for taunting with the totally rockin' and sure to be a finalist pic of my Knocked Down Hunk from my show and tell post...

So, here's a pic - and NO - it's not my entry!

But it is a clear indicator that appearances can be deceiving. I am an only child, and have long since let go of the, 'if I had a brother or a sister would they have looked anything like me...' line of thinking.

And, as the mother to Bear and Comedian their visual dissimarities seem to somewhat answer the question...somewhat...although I still beat around the mushy rain-logged tennis ball of 'would Emma have looked like one of them...' every once and a while.

But here you have my hubby (left) and his only sibling who not even I would pick out of a five man line-up.

And it makes me think...alot...about creation and life and family and would we have picked them if they hadn't also popped out of our mother's womb, and how chosen friends can become family, and what is the defining balance of Nature vs. Nurture *in our lives...and a host of other wild cosmic questions.

But - those musings are a post for another day. For today...an apologetic offering - so you know who to look for in the KDH contest...of course!!!

*This book a great read - and, for me anyway - invaluable to understanding my children...

6 comments:

Martha said...

Handsome fellas.

Hope's Mama said...

Nice hunk Cara. I wonder about siblings and similarities. I have a friend with twin girls, and they look NOTHING alike. And they shared a womb at the same time. I am afraid of my future children not looking like Hope. I want to see her in them....

Brenna said...

Too funny! My husband and his brother also look NOTHING alike. Bruce is 6'3" tall, dark-haired and dark-eyed, and muscular. His brother is about 5'8" with ligher hair and greenish eyes, and he was very slight as a younger man (he's filling out a bit more now as an adult). I chuckled over your comment about how you'd never pick his brother out of a 5-man lineup as being his brother, because I think DH and his bro are exactly the same way.

Your sweetie and his brother are definitely cuties, by the way!

Michelle said...

Very handsome men there! I wonder about those same things although I do have a sister and we both look almost exactly alike even though we are almost 6 years apart. People always ask us if we are twins. But we have almost exact opposite likes and dislikes and opinions on things which I find weird that 2 people from the same parents brought up almost the same way could be SO different.

UnicornMommy said...

Visit from ICWL

I am one of Five. I look nothing like my twin brother or younger sister. My second to the oldest bro is tall and a red head. unlike anyone else. My twin brother and oldest brothers look like carbon copies of each other.

I have a mole on my right cheek in the same place that my dad has. My younger sister has a mole on her right arm pit as do I, my dad and even my five year old son.

genetics, amazing mysteries.

Erin said...

From ICLW. Love your blog, inspired me really. I have been toying with the idea of trying to write about Charlotte, my daughter who passed away two months ago today. It just seems like such a lot of work to try and sell a book. I don't know. Maybe someday. Thank you.

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