I had heard rumor that my OBGYN was closing his doors and moving on to the next phase of his life. Today I received a letter confirming it.
In that letter was this sentence,
"I am grateful for the many years that I have had the privilege to work with you all through pregnancies, childbirth, disease, health and will miss you greatly."
I see the invisible hole where lies a missing word, for although he wasn't my delivering doctor for Emma's pregnancy I know he has lived loss with countless women in the community.
I don't begrudge, truly - I don't, for I recognize that coersing that word into the sentence would have been a two part challenge:
First, choosing the word would be a daunting task. Which synonym best fits: childloss, infant death, miscarriage, or just plain - loss?
Then, placing it. Does it go between 'pregnancies' and 'childbirth' or fit less like a broken puzzle piece between 'childbirth' and 'disease'? Perhaps its optimal location on the end, without a forced bookend to contain its meaning.
Just me. What's your take??
Friday, May 22, 2009
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I think definitely it would have been awkward at best. Also, probably did not want to bring up your loss, maybe feeling it might bring up something you did did not want to bring up at this time.
Yes - I get that and, to be clear, I don't think he SHOULD have put it in. I'm just saying that because I am where I am in my process I see those invisible gaps.
I'm weird like that - :;
I am guessing that is a part of his job that he will not miss. At all.
Sometimes that which goes unspoken is that which speaks the loudest.
xxoo
Nah, you aren't weird. I see that gap too. If it were mentioned, I would put it between pregnancy and childbirth. On a side note, I actually got a sympathy card from my OB's office after we lost of little girl (it was a very early loss).
This is a toughie, Cara. I agree with you completely.
I swear the word verification is haunted on your blog, today we have
prief and the "p" looks like a backward "g" like in "grief".
I don't know where it would have fit. I see those holes too. I Am guessing he wanted the letter to have an upbeat tone about it, therefore there's no place for loss.
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